Adding To Susie Of Arabia's: The Things We Do For Love
Exactly Susie! The sacrifices and compromises that we non-Saudi wives make in the name of love for our Saudi husbands. I haven't been as fortunate as Susie to leave KSA on vacation and visit my family in the US because I'm “stuck” here. I can leave KSA (after we pay my way out) but I wouldn't be able to come back until our papers are organized. Allah knows when that would be. So why do I choose to remain in a country that gave me permission to marry my husband but doesn't recognize me legally as his wife? Why do I choose to stay in a country where a shaykh refuses to grant us a new marriage certificate even though we showed him proof from the Ministry of Interior that we were granted the marriage permission? Why do I choose to stay in a country where I'm considered an over-stayer, when I have every right to be here since my husband and son are Saudi? Why do I choose to stay here knowing that if I give birth, the hospital may not admit me because I don't have an iqamah. Why do I choose to stay in a country where I can't drive? Why do I choose to stay in a Muslim country where Islam gave me rights as a woman to own a business or property yet I have to put it in the name of my husband and I can't go into a government office and take care of my business? Because at the moment, my husband chooses to make his home in KSA. And wherever he lays his hat, that's my home for as long as we're married insha'Allah. Because I don't want to break our family up. And last but not least, because I love my husband. The inspiration for today's post came from Susie of Arabia: The Things We Do For Love. After reading Susie's post, my mind drifted back to the song “The Things We All Do For Love” by Nona Gaye who is the daughter of the famous singer, Marvin Gaye. I don't listen to music anymore but the rhythms and lyrics played out in my head and I knew the words would be a perfect addition to this post. Nona Gaye aptly speaks for my heart. Tara Umm OmarThe things that we all do for love...The things that I would do for love...I’d walk a thousand milesJust to see you smileThis is what you do to meAnd I wonder if it is realCuz it’s what the heart’s been waiting forBut do we know what we are looking forThe things that we all do for loveWe compromise it just becauseWe want the best that love has got to giveThe things that I will do for loveIs basically I’d make it all with youThis is what I’d doI’d let you play your gamesThere’s only me to blame I guess I’m just a fool for loveBut I’m safe; safe in letting goAnd not afraid to fallTell me you feel the sameStay through the joy and painCuz it’s what your heart’s been waiting forNow that you know what you’ve been searching forDon't compromise; just give your allLet me know that this is loveTell me you'll understandLove me; say anythingIt's what my heart's been waiting forI know what you're waiting forContent was edited: Irrelevant, redundant and suggestive parts were deleted. I apologize if I've offended anyone's sensibilities!